One-Sentence Ministering: “Just Saying Sorry”

This one is again for my mature Christian friends, and really straightforward. So let’s dive right in!

I used to say…

“It’s not really fair that you can get out of trouble just by saying sorry.”

To which you might reply…

That’s not how repentance works.

Sorry =/= Repentance.

But I was so ignorant of scripture and theology that I thought that just by saying “sorry,” you could have a get-out-of-jail-free card. (This erroneous belief might have been planted by the catechism in my childhood, but that’s a whole ‘nother can of worms.)

I used to literally think that a stiff, insincere “Sorry πŸ™„” meant that you had a clean slate. No consequences for awful, bad behavior! Just say sorry, then keep on being awful. You can just say sorry again to have another clean slate!

It never crossed my mind that you cannot fool God.

I mean, you can barely fool other people, let alone God! If you have kids, you’ve probably heard the sarcastic “Sorry… πŸ™„” before. (That isn’t fooling anybody, kiddo! 😏)

And it isn’t fooling God.


After that one sentence, you could go on to explain repentance the biblical way. Yes, saying sorry might be part of the process, but being truly sorry in your heart, being honest with God, and being willing to turn your life around– that’s more like it.

It’s a bit embarrassing that I used to think that saying “sorry, gawd, whatever” was repentance, but hey! That’s why I’m doing these posts! To help you guide your friends towards the truth πŸ™‚ Because even if they are not believers, a quick “sorry dude!” is not repentance!

See also…
Part I: “I’m a good person, so I don’t need Jesus.”
Part II: “Brownie points.”

μ•ˆλ…•! Bye! Ciao!

jarilissima

Thank you for being here
Take care!
πŸ™‚

17 comments

  1. When I was a new believer, insincere apologies/sorries to the Lord landed me in more trouble than I really want to think about! It is better to say/offer/do nothing than to say/offer/do half-hearted. I have never had an experience like the one you are talking about; however, if I do I will be sure to explain what it means to repent. Thank you for allowing us to get to know you through these posts and praying the Lord will use them to help others!! Love, hugs and blessings pretty lady!!!!

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    • Thanks for sharing, Mandy! There have been a few instances in life where I wasn’t sorry when I should have, so I prayed with help on that. Like the β€œI do believe; help me overcome my unbelief!” from Mark 9:24. It was very much a prayer of, “I should repent but I’m still too angry- so please help me with that.”

      Sorry I didn’t get to reply yesterday. Hugs and I hope you all have a good Tuesday! πŸ™‚

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  2. Hi Yari, I’m thinking there is a book authored by you in the making here! My definition of repentance is that it causes me to grieve in my heart that I did whatever it was that I did. If it doesn’t grieve me in my heart, then saying I’m sorry really doesn’t mean anything, it’s just an excuse to get away with something and do it all over again. When our kids used to say there were sorry, my wife would ask them what specifically they were sorry for. Being sorry for being caught was high on the list of responses. Actually she used that on me a few times too! And no, I’m not giving you my answers! Repentance to me means we turn from what we did that hurt someone or transgressed God’s will, so much so that we literally do not want to do it again. It causes us enough grievance inside that we deliberately make an effort not to do it again, plus we understand why, what we did was wrong. And just so you know, I’m sorry quite often (slow learner). Blessings!

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    • Thanks so much, Bruce! That is definitely something to consider πŸ™‚

      And I definitely like your explanation of repentance! You’re so right in that sometimes we’re just sorry we got caught, or sorry we faced consequences. Even that type of sorry isn’t repentance. Very smart to point that out!

      Thanks for sharing πŸ™‚

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  3. This reminds me if my son so much! He’s three and has come to think that saying sorry is the magic word to get him put of trouble for his disobedience. We’re working on this one for sure! I’m trying to teach him what being sorry really means.

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  4. It is good that you point out the difference between a sorry and what it means to repent. For me repentance is to firstly acknowledge our sin and our ways, be genuinely remorseful of it along with the knowledge that it grieves the Father and along with it comes a change of heart reflected in a change of actions. It does not mean that we are perfect from then on but we know that our previous ways and thinking needed change and there is an perseverant desire to live in a way that pleases God and brings Him glory.
    Blessings to you Yari

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  5. I came across this a lot in the classroom. Students (most of them ages 11-14) would think that just because they β€œapologized” for something, that made it β€œokay” and they shouldn’t have to get a consequence. I always used to tell them that if they were really sorry they would change their ways.
    Usually they were just sorry they got caught!

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  6. Excellent post!!! You make great points about the whole “sorry” deal, and it really is different from actual repentance, as you explained beautifully! πŸ’• I love these one-sentence ministering posts!

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