I’m 100% Off Social Media ~ What it’s Like

I suppose I’ve become sort of an oddball by simply getting sick of social media and deleting it.

I got rid of Facebook when I (sadly) realized my biological family didn’t really want to stay connected to me in real life, and bullies kept harassing me. It’s been about 5 years.

I got rid of YouTube and my growing 4k subscriber count once I followed Jesus and no longer wanted to do pagan videos. It’s been about 3-4 years.

I got rid of Instagram when I saw that it was affecting my attention span and they rolled out a very racist “mute white people” sticker. It’s been 6 months.

I stopped watching all political and current event news after November 6, 2020. All of it is gone from my life. I do not keep up with it. It’s been about 2 months.

I considered that I *might* miss out on some things, but what things, I never really could say…

What Changed

I immediately forgot my phone. With no apps to check, my brain no longer nagged at me to pick up my phone and look at it. I even considered getting a small flip phone, but decided to just keep what I had in the end.

I suddenly got lots of extra time. The check here, check there, a minute here, a minute there really adds up. Without anything to check, I suddenly had a 24 hour day that felt like it had many more hours!

I got my attention span back πŸ™‚ After deleting everything, I realized that I could do and enjoy activities for much longer. Study time became focused. Bible reading became relaxing and peaceful. Hanging out with my husband became uninterrupted.

I enjoy more personal messages with friends & family. Now that a “Like” is no longer an option, people actually have to call or text me πŸ˜„ And the interactions are so much more lovely!

And no more stress.

I burst out of the outrage bubble. I don’t compare myself to highly-polished Instagrams. I don’t fret over follower count. I don’t have to put up with racist content.

Big news always reaches me. Either my husband tells me, or one of you blogs about it πŸ™‚ But the smaller “non-news”? Did Trump eat at McDonald’s? Did Biden start talking about Corn Pop again? Is Pelosi getting her hair done? Uh… nope.

I like being disconnected.

Because I asked myself, “Exactly what am I connected to??” and I didn’t like the answer.

πŸ‘‰ I’m not judging you if you have social media! I just wanted to share my experience with being a bit of an internet hermit and all the good that can come from it πŸ™‚

μ•ˆλ…•! Bye! Ciao!

jarilissima

Thanks for reading!

38 comments

  1. Congratulations! Your post speaks volumes. For those of us who see the benefits of staying on social media, we most definitely need to control our time on it, and make sure it is a “brief” thing, not a “constant” one. I salute you for your stance!

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    • Thanks! Usually when I tell people I’m not on social media, they quickly give me a list of why they are πŸ˜† But I don’t mind it. Used properly, social media is a great tool, especially to spread the Word of God. But for me, it was causing more trouble than good. Brief, not constant, is definitely great advice! πŸ™‚

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  2. I hear ya about forgetting your phone. I am on social media, but I don’t have any of it on my phone, so there are many times I find I forgot my phone at home. It is nice to be disconnected!

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  3. Love this post! My Bible is my favorite thing to read, and so encouraging. I think a lot more happens when we unplug. I’ve taken up writing letters and have found I really like communicating this way. Thank you for your post. πŸ’—

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    • The Bible is always #1 πŸ™‚ And that’s lovely πŸ™‚ I really like getting letters and cards, and sending them, too. They’re so personal, and you can save them for memories and scrapbooking.

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  4. Good for you, jarilissima! The only “social media” I engage in is WordPress and that occupies enough time (although I am regularly blessed by posts from believers).

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  5. Congrats! It’s good to stay disconnected and connect with humans. My social media is fairly limited to Facebook and Twitter for personal and work related reasons but other than that, I’ve tried to stay away. It certainly does take a lot of energy!!!

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    • Ah, yes… Some of them you have to have for work. I didn’t think about that :-/

      They do take a lot of energy! I was pleasantly surprised to see that blogs are different, and I’ve met very kind people such as yourself and many others on here πŸ™‚

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      • And likewise, glad we connected.

        I find social media has many positive benefits but I always have to tune out from time to time cuz it’s just so much information and also the toxic arguments and bullying are too much at times.

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  6. I quit social media soon after I had my daughter. I was going through a difficult time and didn’t find comfort on Facebook, IG etc. 4K followers on YouTube is very impressive! I only reached 500-something before I quit that too. Idk the exact number because I haven’t logged into that account in years.

    I didn’t know you had a husband, so I learned something new! My husband is helplessly addicted to FB but he does not use IG. I still find myself addicted to my phone because I’m still using safari, forums, and the WordPress app. I still use WhatsApp which is turning out to be time consuming. It’s really nice to find other bloggers who don’t use social media either. πŸ™‚ So many ppl don’t want to give it up, but like you said, what are we really missing out on if we give it up? Not a whole lot! JOMO is what I call it – joy of missing out.

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    • JOMO – joy of missing out. That is really cute and accurate! And it IS a joy. I remember in the beginning of the year, people worried so much about the virus’ “what-if’s,” most of which never happened. So, it is certainly a joy to avoid all that πŸ™‚

      I hope you are past your difficult times, and it is actually very thoughtful that you gave up SM after you had your daughter. More time to spend with her, right? That’s awesome πŸ™‚

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      • I wish I had coined the word JOMO but I picked it up from somewhere. I still get FOMO occasionally, and will have the urge to check social media. Then I remember all of the reasons why I left, and that desire quickly fades. I also remember that I don’t have my passwords and logging in would be a huge pain. The amount of energy to log in is just not worth it to me.

        When I found out that my daughter had a rare genetic condition that causes blindness, I realized that there was no point staying on social media where I the community was far from supportive. When I left, very little people reached out to me, so I quickly realized how fake my so-called friendships online actually were. People can’t even be bothered to send a text message these days which I think speaks volumes about the person. They practically live on FB and refuse to use any other forms of communication.

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      • I’m sorry to hear about your daughter’s condition. I hope she’s doing well. Social media communities can seem supportive on the surface, but often times they’re not, and I’m sorry that they completely failed you.

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      • It’s alright, and I agree. Social media is rather shallow. It’s the people especially, who seem friendly on the surface but were mere acquaintances if anything. I find social quite misleading and deceptive. Honestly, I have nothing much to show for being a FB user for 10 years. πŸ€·β€β™€οΈ

        At least the community on WP is a lot more supportive, and the connections seem a lot more genuine β˜ΊοΈπŸ’•

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  7. Good for you! I totally agree with you about the social media. In fact, most of my church has stayed off of it and many of us have never even started an Instagram or FB account. Now if I could just quit looking at the news…😬

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    • That’s very good for your church! Even though it can be good for outreach at times, but generally I just don’t know about FB. It’s harder not to look at the news, that’s for sure. What I tried for a while is only looking at local news, and that was more relevant and less inflammatory.

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      • Yes that’s a good idea. I like to check the local news frequently because since I often listen to the Fresno PD on the scanner at night, I like to see if any of the incidents I heard the night before made the news the next day. 🧐

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  8. This idea intrigues me and is something I have thought about. I only have FB. I’ve never used IG or Twitter, etc., but even FB alone can be such a time trap for me if I’m not careful. And I do believe it might mess up my attention span and ability to focus. I can feel inspired about something but if I get on FB I notice that inspiration dwindles. Could be my age, too! πŸ™‚ Have a great day!

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  9. This is great! I’ve been slowly trying to leave social media and while I keep telling myself I don’t need it, it’s still hard to leave! I stay off FB and only go on when I have to since certain local businesses only use FB and I need to know their hours. I’m proud of you!

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  10. Great stuff. I don’t own a smart phone or a TV. But I do have my laptop which I choose to engage with for a couple of hours in the day, if I have the time. This can get out of hand too. I’m finding in lock-down it is the way to meet, do webinars, meet family and friends… but it can suck the time away too! For one of your generation you must seem strange to most of your peers, but a great example and I’m so happy it is bringing you peace.

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  11. Good for you on all of this!! I am in the process…….deleting FB now and Twitter a while ago. Have wanted to do FB for a few years now but hesitated because I always posted my blog on my personal page and then on Heavensreef. So when you do close, you have to wait 30 days……this page is NOT your own for sure. So it should be gone by the end of this month.
    The question to ask yourself in all of this is: where do I spend my time? Does it glorify GOD? And in the light of all eternity, how important is this?
    Thanks for sharing all the blessings that you are experiencing right now……what a testimony and encouragement for those of us who are in the midst of doing the same.

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