My refusal to gossip has gotten me into trouble.
I know! Who would have thunk?? I thought that would be a good thing.
But when people start talking about someone who is not in the room, I get this sinking, awful feeling. It feels wrong, and I clam up.
More often than not, people assume that I’m “taking their side.” And when the other person wants to gossip, I clam up, and then that person thinks I’m “taking their side!” So I end up on both/nobody’s side! It’s a weird circle 😕
Now when people open up to me about so-and-so, I ask gently, “Have you spoken to them about it?” I get blank stares.
I think I come across as taking sides, or not being interested, or being insensitive to feelings, but honestly… I just get really uncomfortable with gossip!
How are you most often misunderstood?
안녕! Bye! Ciao!